Hi Everyone,
I haven't posted in quite sometime now. My daughter Hannah was diagnosed with Vitiligo since she was 3 years old. I noticed a white spot on her belly that continued to grow with time. I googled online white patches on belly and it came across vitiligo so I began to read. I made an apt to see a dermatologist because Vitilitgo was not widely known at the time they called it eczema which I knew different , but ok. With Hannah being so young anyways I didn't fell it was the best decision to have her try any of the treatments out there for treating Vitiligo like steroid cream, and light therapy just yet. Hannah started pre-school and at that point it had spread on her legs, arms, and such. It never bothered Hannah the way it bothered me. I cried, I got angry, question why so many times, but knew there was nothing that I did to cause this and had to just read and educate myself and Hannah how to cope with this. I did such that, so when people would ask Hannah and I could tell them. As the years went on it spread and became noticeable, her tummy was all white, her patches on her legs where growing. Being Portuguese our skin gets really dark in the summer months, this is when it affected Hannah and I a lot more. Hannah still wasn't too bothered by it. I on the other hand would get really nasty and protective over Hannah when we would get the stairs and questions. UGH !!! I just wanted to protected my little girl from emotional harm. As years went on Hannah started becoming upset and vocal about the way she looked. That is when I decided to take her back to the derm to explore our options. We started the steroid cream a few times a day. Using it for a month or so it did NOTHING for Hannah. I waited again and told Hannah when she wanted me to talk to the derm again for another treatment I would. At the age of 12 she began getting upset being in upper grades it became harder on Hannah. The kids have been great even now. I have always talked to the teacher and explained Hannah condition so that she would talk to Hannah's class about it so that it was be better on Hannah. I remember Hannah coming home and stating " UGH mommy every time someone asks me if I'm contagious or does it hurt, my head hurts", its so annoying she would say. Her class mates have been wonderful and have not made Hannah feel any different other than looks if that make any sense. Hannah started UV treatment when she was 13 years old I will tell you in just 6 months of treatment 3 times a week her pigment started coming back. Hannah and I got so excited and finally beginning to gain hope that their will be a cure, she can beat this. It's amazing how different Hannah looks now and her confidents gets built up more and more as the days go by. Hannah's tummy looks like she has freckles it looks amazing.. Her legs have a palm left of white on both knees where as before it was down to her foot with white. Her elbows just this summer started filling in. After months of UV treatments we decided to quit for a bit considering summer was approaching. With being in the sun her pigment continued to come back. We did continue to lather her in a bath of sun screen not wanting her to burn. Hannah is not 15 and she is doing well. This summer we have seen more skin fill in and its amazing but she isn't burning like she had in the past and we haven't used much sun screen.. On the other hand I am become worse with emotions. It's amazing of how many people and children have Vitiligo now, as well as being known in society. We do get the stares and when we do I always" ask why they are staring and then I explain what Hannah has.. Ok yes I embarrass them.. I tend to know get more protective in the sense that I talk to her friends and family more before Hannah hangs out for the first time especially in the summer when it is noticeable . Hannah is beautiful inside and out she has Never let this beat her and keep her from doing the things in life that she loves to do, I think if anything it has made her stronger and more out going and bubbly, she don't care.. I think about all the other situations in the world that is far more worse than what Vitiligo is and how parents have to cope and it becomes easier to embrace considering Hannah wont die from this, Hannah's life style wont be affected by this and she can live a normal life without any limitations. Someday there will be a cure, someday Hannah will be able to share her story with others and help other kids and teens cope. We are the light, its us that can make that difference in this world. Hang in there and shine, show people that we will beat this and educate them .. I am hoping to start a Vitiligo Support group here in CT in the next months to come. My goal is to bring awareness to CT and hope to get a convention on the East Coast down the line.. We are all in this together and there is a plan and a purpose for everything..
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Is there an age limit for the UV treatment?
Your post made me cry. I also have been angry and hurt and protective. I have cried. I have asked a million times WHY?? Maybe someday there will be an answer. <3
Thank you for sharing your story! My 9 year old daughter has recently been diagnosed, and stories like yours give us hope. Thank you, Sonia
Hi, Sonia, my daughter is 9 also. We've only been trying to treat her vitiligo for the last 4-5 months. We are doing clobetasol and protopic creams as instructed by the dermatologist we are working with. When they look at the white spots under the black light they can really see the pigmentation starting to change. To the naked eye it's not easy to see, but it appears we are making progress. We live in AZ and try to get sun on her spots on the weekends, 10-15 mins. on her stomach and on her back both.
Where do you live? If your daughter is online at all maybe my daughter and your daughter could play (virtually)... ? My girls like to play some game online and I can't think of what it's called now! :)
I have a 9 yr old daughter also who is keen to link up with someone with the same condition to share the experience, emotions etc. She has only just recently been diagnosed and the full impact of the diagnosis is still yet to come I think when the summer comes as her skin darkens around the affected area around her eye. Right now she's quite pale so you can only see the white eyelashes and eyebrow - bad enough really.
If your daughter is interested please let me know.
Thanks
I sure am appreciating everything I am finding in this forum. My 13 year old was just diagnosed and the dermatologist gave her a HUGE lecture about staying out of the sun and I think that hurt her heart (and mine) almost as much as the diagnosis itself. We have a small boat and enjoy boating and water skiing on the weekends (she skis and I watch)! I am THRILLED to see that you take your child out in the sun. I told my gal that her/our quality of life was important and we weren't going to hide inside. What a relief to know that being outside in the sunshine might actually help her spots (I know it will help her spirit)!
Hi Alison, thanks for reaching out! My daughter is using a steroid cream on her legs and protopic on her eyes -- we have only been doing it 2 weeks or so. I am still so sad about all of this and fear for my girl. She does not quite understand what is going on. She knows she has a skin condition, but does not realize that it is progressive ;( Can I have a rain check in terms of putting the girls in touch? Right now this all still too new. How long have you know about it and what is your daughters attitude?
We just moved to Houston from Calif and are adjusting well.
Yes, no pressure on connecting them. Well, it's really odd how we first discovered it, as I thought my daughter had been scratching at a mole on her side and had scratched so much it had aggravated the area surrounding the mole. We happened to be at a dermatologist appt. maybe 2 years ago for my other daughter who at the time had a white thing on her face that we had lasered off (I know, sounds weird!). When we were at the derm's office I casually showed him the mole and surrounding white spot and he said oh yeah, that's the skin trying to "eat" the mole. We didn't do anything about it at the time and just kind of pooh pooh'd the situation. Time went by and more spots showed up and eventually we took her to a different dermatologist who said it was vitiligo. Personally, I am a little obsessive compulsive and also a little addictive type personality. I turned myself into a complete mess trying to control the situation and having anxiety about it and the like. I talked to my ex-husband about it and told him how stressed out I was about it. He said, look, you had your boobs done and I always thought you looked amazing (without), you've been obsessed about the brown spots on your face (melasma) for years and you shouldn't, you're a beautiful woman, if only you could see how beautiful you are. (I know, sounds weird from an ex, right, but trust me, he's no angel!) Anyway, my ex-husband's cousin has had alopecia since Jr. High or High School. He's very pale and he has no hair on his body at all. No eyebrows, no eyelashes, no nothing... My father-in-law used to work with another guy (both were lawyers working in a law firm) who had the same condition. The lawyer guy tried super hard to cover it up with toupees, etc. wasn't confident, etc. My ex's cousin on the other hand, just went with what he had, made no qualms about it and accepted who he was and who he wasn't. The latter was obviously the type of guy people enjoyed being around, was an inspiration to others and all in all having a better life experience. I have done a lot of soul searching in the last 7 months and have made a lot of positive changes in my life which is in turn improving the lives of my daughters. I had to have a wake up call in my life to get me out of my self-pity mode and now lean on God for my strength. I realize there's sooooooooo much in this life we cannot control and when I try to be in control I only stress myself out and serve no purpose to those around me. When I meditate and let God handle stuff (I believe He will anyway) then I save myself from added pressure and stress. These ways are helping me to keep my daughter calm as well. We are doing what we can, and doing the best at it we can, we are not perfect at keeping up with the regimen of cream, we still need to go and have her blood drawn (to check thyroid, vitamin levels, etc.) but by me changing my perspective on things and using techniques like meditation (and I'm only talking maybe 10 minutes at a time, I'm a newbie at it!) and taking deep breaths in and exhaling deep breaths out we both can de-stress. I feel like our divorce situation may have been the big stressor that started her vitiligo. She took it so hard and she's such a sweetheart that she takes a lot of things in life hard. Helping her to cope with day to day situations that can become stressors is one of the best things I can do for her. I'm on a new path in life and really appreciating my life and my kids, etc. I hope some of my "long-winded-ness" has maybe been helpful to you. I'm very fortunate as I have joined a group that has taught me to really live one day at a time. By living in the now and accepting that everything at this moment is exactly the way it is supposed to be and being patient, faithful and not fearful, I can be of maximum service to those around me. When I focus on the past, I get depressed. When I focus too much in the future I get anxiety. Peace to you and yours. Feel free to reach out anytime. My personal email is: alison.dosek@academy.cc or here's my cell if you need someone to talk to that really understands what you are going through: 480.648.6762.