This is real talk here people and I'm sharing my story with you out of personal pain. For years I was single because I couldn't find that special person in my life, The women I dated previously were turned off because of my Vitiligo I thought they were turned off because of the Vitiligo being in my private area's and I could tell because a person's eyes never lie, I used to set up blind dates and when it came time for me and the woman to go out to dinner like at a Red Lobster or somewhere the women would make up excuses to end our date early and for years that would haunt me because I was scared to ask another woman for a date, But as I got older I learned to accept my Vitiligo because I learned to love myself first and by learning to love and accept myself I found women who would also love and accept me for myself, so just because you have Vitiligo don't ever give up on yourself or your love life because you will find true love in time trust me I been there and now I'm a happily married man with 4 daughters 2 from a previous relationship before I met my wife, You will get your hearts true desires if you just be patient. Remember the old saying "Good things come to those who wait.................Well I waited and it was worth it
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For years I was single and I was thinking nobody is going to ever want me because of my spots I was depressed and I gave up on myself several times, I admit I used to be jealous of the Playboy type of guys who had all the girls I cried many lonely saturday nights because I had nobody to hold, I blamed my vitiligo because I knew that I was not a bad looking guy.I just kept praying and asking God to send me somebody special in my life because I was tired of being lonely, I admit it took a few years, But God came thru for me and sent me my hearts true desires he sent me my soul mate and for this I will be eternally happy
If you just have fun and forget about the fact you are different , people will see you for who you are.
If you project fear and anxiety then you will transmit this feelings to the person you would like to date.
I have a friend who doesn’t have legs- he lost them in an accident. Apparently this friend is one of the biggest party fun loving person I have ever known. He had many girlfriends and now he is with a girl who is much younger than he is. I am sure that missing some pigmentation is not as bad as missing your legs so there is no a real reason why people feel scared to believe that it is going to turn out all right.
Don’t forget that we are preconditioned to define love by the media and the advertising industry. Love in the media is usually something that happens between perfectly looking people…Does it mean that there is no love outside of those human ideas? Does it mean that if you are not perfect you do not “deserve” to be loved?
What we are programmed to do sometimes plays tricks on us...we don’t see the bigger picture
?Ivanka it's funny that you mention the guy with no legs, I met a guy with no arms and no legs and he had the most beautiful girlfriend you could ever imagine, now here I was sitting here crying about my vitiligo when his situation was even worse than mines but he was happy, so meeting this guy has put my Vitiligo in a different perspective and now I will never cry over my vitiligo ever again because when you think you are doing bad it's always somebody out there doing worst than you.
I like you a lot. You have taught me something about the importance of waiting. I'm currently going through a very difficult illness and I feel so impatient to be better.
We just need to be patient - That'll be my screen saver.
I believe you, we just need to keep faith and be positive and above all love ourselves first.
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