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WHY ARE YOU IN MY FACE????????

Posted by Ciney B on August 5, 2010 at 12:43pm

"I wish I could tell the difference between a stare of attraction and the stares of ignorance"

(Gary White)

 

How can you tell the difference?  How do you respond?

 

It bothers me when guys stare in my face. I don't know how to resound and most of the time I get really defensive, twist my face up, and get an attitude..lol. I would really hate to make the wrong judgment call.

 

IGNORANCE OR ATTRACTION

 

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  • Ciney B August 11, 2010 at 12:22pm
    THEY WILL GET ATTITUDE FROM ME... If there are any Police Officers on here please speak up..Oh okay.

    Like I side, don't stare me in my face like I just put you in cuffs and wrote your butt a fat ticket or took your lunch money..lol Don't look at me like I’m crazy. My safety is ALWAYS number one, so I don't know where ya'll live at in the world but I’m in the DC/MD/VA area and I just never know the reason behind someone looking a me. I don't know if its from the job and they recognize me out of uniform, if its just plan attraction, or the ignorance of trying to figure out why this thick curvy sista is so damn light and bright. I don't care whatever the reason.

    SPEAK or GET OUT MY FACE! I dare you to touch me... Oooow Weee, its on and poppin
  • Mike Gonzales August 6, 2010 at 6:53am
    Sometimes I catch people looking at my hands, and when they do, I just pick up my hand higher and wave and say "HIIIII!" It seems to catch them off gaurd because people naturally expect us to put our hands in our pockets and shy away! Gosh! Yu just gotta have fun with it and laugh a little! Your demeanor will either command respect or ridicule! Take charge of shty and smile, laugh and enjoy life! People will usually notice your glee FIRST!
    • William M > Mike Gonzales August 6, 2010 at 7:44am
      Mike I like your attitude!!
      • Ciney B > William M August 6, 2010 at 8:25am
        I agree... I love it Mike!

        NOW IM TALKIN ABOUT THE OPPOSIT SEX ....lol.

        GUYS what signs do you look for to let you know that its okay to approach her and that her look is not out of ignorance?

        LADIES We are less likely to approach a man (some do) but we have to determine if this dude is a stalker, physco, or just plan interested. If you have some weird looking guy staring you down burning a hole in your face then what? And you know its some crazy men on here who will go beyond being ingorant.

        I had this man burning a hole in my face yesterday at the gym. Good Lawd! (if he was cute that would have been a different story....lol) But I wanted to switch in to officer mode and throw that butt to the ground for looking so hard. Did he speak NO, did he give a kind smile NO. I’m kind of glad I gave him my work face that says "Don't play with me cuz I'll f@#k you up, try me"...... (I just can't seem to leave that face at work...lol)
        Im always aware of my surrounding and until a man actually opens his mouth and says something I just take him for being ignorant... Oh the single life...lmbo!
        • Mike Gonzales > Ciney B August 6, 2010 at 8:38am
          Noooooooooo! You can't do that Ciney B. Instead of an "I'm about to drop your ass.." attitude, you gotta have an "damn, I know you want some of this tasty goodness.." attitude. LOL! People back the fk off when they realize they can't intimidate you. Works for me! LOL! Ha ha I said tasty goodness!
          • Ciney B > Mike Gonzales August 6, 2010 at 2:33pm
            I love you Mike!!!!!!! you are too funny, but okay I'll leave the "Drop ur ass" attitude at work and I'll try it your way...lol If it don't work you'll be getting a nasty gram form me...lol. SMOOCHES!
            • David Ramos > Ciney B August 10, 2010 at 4:15pm
              well i just talk to every girl a meet which im attracted to in a friendly way i dont hide my hands cause if you hide ur vitiligo and they find out later its harder to explain so i think its best to let the opposite sex see exactly who u are and hopefully they respect you for being positive and not caring about ur vit
  • Ogo Maduewesi August 5, 2010 at 11:56pm
    Really hard to tell atimes, because there are people that admire with a kind of weird look. Bottomline for me is whether stare of attraction or stare of ignorance it makes no difference, am good and hardly notice them. Thank God for his strength and boldness, for those of us who are not there yet, am trusting and believing God that we will all get there someday.
  • shavaiz malik August 5, 2010 at 6:17pm
    i guess when u they look at u with that grim weird look then u should show sum attitude......but sumtimes ppl do smile at u .in that case , just be urself......;)
  • AMY August 5, 2010 at 2:57pm
    Don't think the worst and just be polite. If it is ignorance than who cares right? Attitude just makes you appear unattractive. Just my opinion.
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