Vitiligo, Jealousy and Relationships

Hello all. I have had Vitiligo for 19 years. Wow that's the first time I realised how long I've had it for lol, as I had never really thought about it before!

Anyway, I am very very insecure because of it ( also because I had a baby at 16 and have the stretchmarks to show for it ). My insecurities have ended every relationship I've had and it's about to happen again after meeting the love of my life, the man I want to marry. I am so jealous of other girls on tv, movies, real life etc and its causing me and my fiance to fight all the time. He tells me to get over it, I've got nothing wrong with me etc etc... But everytime there is anything to do with another girl I go crazy and feel so inadequate. Why cant I have normal, even coloured skin?! I want to be able to get naked and be confident! I dont know what to do. Ive had counselling, it hasnt worked. How do you stop being so jealous of your partner looking at other people? please help!!!

Thanks in advance, Amy

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  • Charlie is right , the kid wouldnt spend a day with you if he wasnt feeling something serious . It takes a man to be with someone a little bit different . 

    For you and for the girl that works in medical field ... are you prepared to care for someone the same or more than about you ? Every fool wants everything his or her way but doesnt want to put any effort in , especially when it comes to relationships and what women want :D . 

    There is no way , no way for a girl not to be loved if she drops her princess bullshit , whenever a guy shows a genuine interest you start your girly mind games like you are some Victoria Beckham in her 20ties . You are nothing special and you are entitled to nothing . Its only television watching got you chasing delusions not dreams but delusions . 

    You are unique !!! But it does not mean you are special in any way . 

    Be a decent human being and there is NO WAY you wont be loved . 

    Of course people staring at you , of course they think you are freak ... For example i think catwalk models are freaks too i wouldnt emmm :D even put a broom stick in them :D 

    Nobody can hurt you emotionally if you dont let them , if you let them  it means they are right . 

    You cant even imagine how hard it is for a guy with Viti on his face ...girls are 100% superficial and any even the smallest flawed detail disqualifies you completely . I have been there myself . 

    For girls its ...lets say there is always someone that will take you as you are :D 

    Nothing is to be taken for granted in this world no matter what you had been led to believe all your life . You are entitled to exactly nothing .

    "Live you every day like its your last " doesnt mean that you must eat coke with a table spoon and drink tequila outta bottle every day , it means eaither you enjoy your life as it is or go hang yourself , no matter what you do there will not be another chance . 

    People only think and talk shit about you behind your back no matter what you do - if you are beutiful they say you are a slut , if you are ugly they say you are a slut , if you are nice they say you are a dumb slut , if you are mean they say you are bitch .

    If they are scared of you shitless they say nothing :D . So is an opinion of such creatures any important ? 

  • I totally feel your emotions right now. I always feel people are staring at me especially since I work in medical field. I always wear long sleeve shirts at work so all you see are my spotted hands.. Sometimes I feel like a freak :(
  • Wow thanks for your honesty
  • LOL fork his eyes :D 

    You are crazy and you would be so no matter with Viti or not :D but you are not alone , lots of women are this batshit crazy and the man that you are in to must run from you like there is Vitiligo ghost chasing him :D . You will ruin his life if he marries you ... do you want to ruin his life ?  If not then run yourself . 

    He is not your property and never will be ...understan and accept this ... he is a free human and can look at whomever he wishes to . But ... You are a free human too and oh please dont tell me you dont look at or like  other guys :) . 

    You must be thankful to your lucky stars for every little moment you spend together ...in this world nothing is for sure except death . One moment you are here the very next BANG you are gone .

    Never take anything for granted ever .

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