Thank You

It's been many years for me, but I remember going through the same experience: not thinking there was any way to feel better about this, but slowly my thinking changing. I have to say, quite honesty, I actually feel no anger/regret/shame/? feelings any more about my Vitiligo, which is more pronounced than it's ever been. It's been a process of letting go of my own preconceptions about attractiveness, coming to a better understanding of how people actually view others, and gaining in self confidence and feeling less like a victim.

But having said, that, I'm fair-skinned, and so as bad as my Vitiligo gets, I don't have to deal with the kind of dramatic visibility that I think those with darker skin must experience.

Wrapped up in all of this is a kind of "awakening" for me--a coming to understand how much on the surface I had lived, and how little I understood about how the social world works. I've told this over and over, but when I discovered that my friendliness with people WAY overcame their perception of my skin condition, I found a happiness in being in social situations that I didn't expect. It was kind of like discovering the magic formula for making friends and connecting with others, that required Vitiligo as the key. Sounds melodramatic, but it is, in some ways.

Glad you're here, Shannon!

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Robot October 23, 2015 at 5:48am

Good reading: http://drbenkim.com/vitiligo-natural-management.htm
Steve Hargadon October 23, 2015 at 4:44am

It's been many years for me, but I remember going through the same experience: not thinking there was any way to feel better about this, but slowly my thinking changing. I have to say, quite honesty, I actually feel no anger/regret/shame/? feelings any more about my Vitiligo, which is more pronounced than it's ever been. It's been a process of letting go of my own preconceptions about attractiveness, coming to a better understanding of how people actually view others, and gaining in self confidence and feeling less like a victim.

But having said, that, I'm fair-skinned, and so as bad as my Vitiligo gets, I don't have to deal with the kind of dramatic visibility that I think those with darker skin must experience.

Wrapped up in all of this is a kind of "awakening" for me--a coming to understand how much on the surface I had lived, and how little I understood about how the social world works. I've told this over and over, but when I discovered that my friendliness with people WAY overcame their perception of my skin condition, I found a happiness in being in social situations that I didn't expect. It was kind of like discovering the magic formula for making friends and connecting with others, that required Vitiligo as the key. Sounds melodramatic, but it is, in some ways.

Glad you're here, Shannon!

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