Lets be honest....

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Dawn L-B July 31, 2010 at 7:00am

Naaahhh babe, it aint happening. I can help, but dealing with mine is bad enough.
Chris Hansen July 30, 2010 at 10:06am

Ciney.... Not knowing what it would be like going from one extreme to the other, I can still say I understand the conflict you're going through. Mine didn't start until later, but it still is a big struggle not looking in the mirror and seeing the same person I saw 20 years ago. It's almost like that person never existed... that's why I joined this site... and that's why I don't keep relationships. I just can't deal with the fact that I think I'm different... It's not always them, (well sometimes it is)... We all look around and see people who are worse off then we are and think "Wow, why am I complaining?" but it's a reality. We are always harder on ourselves.

I'm older now, my kids are grown up, married and have children of their own. This is supposed to be my time now... and it is.. I do enjoy life, but would also like to date someone that would understand the inner conflict we all go through.

In meeting you, I think you're a beautiful girl and have a lot to offer to someone, but maybe we should all be in therapy... I'm seriously thinking about it...
- Ciney B > Chris Hansen July 30, 2010 at 11:15am
  
  Thank you Chris and I enjoyed meeting you too and I can't wait to come back and see you guys!
  
  As for therapy see if you can get us a 2 for 1 because I've been thinking about going to see someone for the longest, but then I chicken out.
  
  Truth be told, I have internal conflicts that the public don't see and will never see. 26yrs of having no one to talk to about this condition or share my feelings with is hard :- ( I keep it to myself and bottled up. In addtion I've built a wall to protect my feelings (that’s why I've been able to do so much) and I've become numb In suppressing my feelings. I dare not let people see me crack and this is where I suffer so greatly in relationships. I get nervous really bad, I have high blood pressure, and I've had a few anxiety attacks...lol. I need to express what Im experiencing and I need someone to relate to.
  This site is good but I would much rather have face-to-face.
  - Lisa > Ciney B August 1, 2010 at 1:23pm
    
    Ciney I think all of us who have stuggle with vitiligo need to see a therapist. I am 32 yrs old and have vitligo since I was in diapers. And I still don't know how to deal with it nor do I accept it.
  - Cara Twillie > Ciney B July 30, 2010 at 6:36pm
    
    In reading this post, sis, I think that you may be on to something. I too have kept a lot of the feelings bottled up.....about Vitiligo and otherwise. I too have become numb in a lot of situations and suffer in relationships. I have anxiety attacks.....as a matter of fact the last one was so bad that I couldn't ignore them any longer. I will be seeing a psychiatrist on Tuesday and believe that once he/she actually sees me, my session will be longer than anticipated!!!!! The funny thing is....i do worry about what people think of me.....but not physically, not in a OMG I have Vitiligo sense. Does that make sense?
    
    In saying that maybe you are onto something, maybe those of us who are not so worried about Vitiligo develop other worries, build walls in defense and actually wind up keeping out people we want, and are so numb and unconcerned with the stares that sometimes we misconstrue a stare of attraction for the usual stare of ignorance? Possible?
    - Gary White > Cara Twillie August 1, 2010 at 4:41pm
      
      I think I accepted my Vitiligo more back when I didn't know I could try to stop it. I had accepted it and now I find out that there's been treatment since 97, and if I had done something then I might have gotten rid of it. So now I'm trying to find the old me, the me that didn't care. Anyway I decided If I work out loose weight maybe more women will notice me, thinking that It will build my confidence up. This plan has backfired. It worked, now more women notice me and then they see the Vitiligo and then they go get there friends so that everyone can look.
      
      I wish I could tell the difference between a stare of attraction and the stares of ignorance. I have thought about seeing a therapist but I don't think that they will get it. let me know if therapy has helped anyone with your Vitiligo.
      - Ciney B > Gary White August 5, 2010 at 12:45pm
        
        Gary I just made this a discussion about he differecen between the stares. I too experience the same thing and I'll hate to make a mistake in judging the stare. I think we all should go see someone.
      - Chris Hansen > Gary White August 2, 2010 at 12:30pm
        
        Gary: What do you mean you could have stopped it? I went to a couple of doctors and the only thing they gave me was that protopic ointment that didn't do any good. Is there something out there we don't know about? Anyway, I still think you're a good looking young guy so don't go feeling sorry... there's bound to be someone out there for you...
        
        I'm seriously thinking about therapy.. I'll give you an update....
        
        Gary White > Chris Hansen August 2, 2010 at 1:12pm
        
        I don't mean that I could have stopped it, but I could have tried to do something. I'm just mad because when I finally found out there was a treatment, it was to late for me. But I do appreciate the compliments. I know I look good just not good at knowing if a girl likes me or if she's just being nice because she feels bad for me or something. I always assume that she just wants to be my friend and that is it. The only time I'm in a relationship is when a girl asks me out.
        
        William M > Chris Hansen August 2, 2010 at 12:57pm
        
        Chris: How long did you use Protopic. I have heard it takes months to work but people have had good results. I am thinking of trying it, My dr gave it to me a while ago and have not used it yet. I guess all medicine work different on everyone.

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