I just want a close friend with vitiligo. It is tough but since I have vitiligo I feel as though I notice it on other people easier. I was at a concert with 15,000 people this past weekend and the guy sitting beside me had vitiligo too. It was a pleasent surprise.
So far I have dated 2 women while I'm in this condition and the last one thinks that my have 2 white sexy nipples! lol. but those relationship never tend to last long, when ever i started to get serious with someone it's always been me who feels very insecure about this situation.
I can certainly appreciate you wanting a girl who shares your vitiligo!
That being said, I can say in all honesty if a guy acknowledged my vitiligo right away and WASN'T a devastatingly handsome doctor, I would probably run screaming, even if he had the best of intentions (as you do). I frighten easily.
But at the same time (and here's where Ali gets to be a little emotional), I think someone truly understanding my disease would be a blessing. I think it might have helped save my marriage. My soon to be ex husband is outdoorsy, loves the beach, boating, you name it. He complained quite a bit that I never wanted to go out and do things, but the only things he ever wanted to do involved direct sunlight. It didn't seem to matter how many times I explained that this wasn't me avoiding spending time with him. It was me avoiding second degree burns! He JUST DIDN'T GET IT. I am the same girl today that he married 3 years ago. I'm not sure where in there he got the impression that I was a sun bunny. It still hurts me a great bit thinking about it.
Whatever. He downgraded to some dumpy, unfortunate looking blonde girl who has more issues than Time Magazine. I hope they have all kinds of fun getting sun spots and wrinkles together. A*shole.
Ali, you're so cute... you make me smile and want to board a plane to florida. Hold your head high kiddo. your pretty smile will bring mr right, obviously, he wasnt it. ;-)
You know that's funny.LOL!!!!!!!!!But you know I am having a hard time believing that my husband except me the way I am because we will be married 16 years in August but when we met in 1995 I didn't have vitiligo. When it started on my face things changed between us. I mean we are still together, but I can tell the difference. I am not too worried about him cheating or leaving me but I do worry that he will continue to love me but not be attracted too me. And with me having a lower self-esteem than I did in the beginning I wonder does he think I am ugly. I ask him does he think I am pretty and he says yes, but I have a very hard time believing that. I never thought about being with anyone with vitiligo cause I always felt my marriage was complete. -Marilyn-
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So far I have dated 2 women while I'm in this condition and the last one thinks that my have 2 white sexy nipples! lol. but those relationship never tend to last long, when ever i started to get serious with someone it's always been me who feels very insecure about this situation.
well if person really loves cuz of u-she will love u..doesnt matter if she has vit or not..i admit it would be easier if she or he had it...
sometimes i wish it too cuz it wont be necessary to explain him about vit
I can certainly appreciate you wanting a girl who shares your vitiligo!
That being said, I can say in all honesty if a guy acknowledged my vitiligo right away and WASN'T a devastatingly handsome doctor, I would probably run screaming, even if he had the best of intentions (as you do). I frighten easily.
But at the same time (and here's where Ali gets to be a little emotional), I think someone truly understanding my disease would be a blessing. I think it might have helped save my marriage. My soon to be ex husband is outdoorsy, loves the beach, boating, you name it. He complained quite a bit that I never wanted to go out and do things, but the only things he ever wanted to do involved direct sunlight. It didn't seem to matter how many times I explained that this wasn't me avoiding spending time with him. It was me avoiding second degree burns! He JUST DIDN'T GET IT. I am the same girl today that he married 3 years ago. I'm not sure where in there he got the impression that I was a sun bunny. It still hurts me a great bit thinking about it.
Whatever. He downgraded to some dumpy, unfortunate looking blonde girl who has more issues than Time Magazine. I hope they have all kinds of fun getting sun spots and wrinkles together. A*shole.
Ali, you're so cute... you make me smile and want to board a plane to florida. Hold your head high kiddo. your pretty smile will bring mr right, obviously, he wasnt it. ;-)
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I am always glad to get a smile out of everyone!
Sometimes I just need to vent :-)
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