Posted by Heather Dixon on December 23, 2010 at 1:47pm
in my latin class at schho i was dazing off and this girl caught my eye. i noticed she had whie spots on her face lighter than he skin. ive known her for a couple of months and never noticed it before till now. i dont o anyone personaly with vitiligo and i would like to know if thats what it is so im just wondering if anyone has any advice about this.
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I would not ask if its not very obvious. May be if someone asks, it might make the person get worried and make him/her uncomfortable. I feel it should not be vitiligo that should make you talk to the person for the first time , Since you in a school it quiet ok to be friends first and take time before you ask about vitligo..
Just ask! Be as polite as possible. Personally, I'm pretty open with my vitiligo - even though I do not like it one bit- but not everyone is that way. Maybe an approach like "Hey, sorry to bother you but is that vitiligo? I'm just asking because I also have it and have yet to meet someone else who has it". That way she knows why you're asking before even giving an answer. It'll ease her into a conversation.
Heather Dixon > Nilda-MelissaJanuary 5, 2011 at 1:50pm
good advice and thanks. im just scared too.. i no i shouldnt be but i am. i am a very shy person. i will get the courage to do so. :) hopefully....
I have never met anyone in real life with vitiligo. I say approach her casually and mention that you have it too (show her your patches, if possible). I can't speak for you or the girl in your class, but when I was younger, I would have loved nothing more than to have met someone like me. I like to think my formative years would have been more tolerable with a shoulder to lean on :-)
So I say reach out to her. She may be in a very lonely place, and this is a tough disease/condition to discuss, especially with people who have little to no experience with it or knowledge.
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Its quiet delicate issue.
I would not ask if its not very obvious. May be if someone asks, it might make the person get worried and make him/her uncomfortable. I feel it should not be vitiligo that should make you talk to the person for the first time , Since you in a school it quiet ok to be friends first and take time before you ask about vitligo..
After all ones health history is very personal.
Too cool!
I have never met anyone in real life with vitiligo. I say approach her casually and mention that you have it too (show her your patches, if possible). I can't speak for you or the girl in your class, but when I was younger, I would have loved nothing more than to have met someone like me. I like to think my formative years would have been more tolerable with a shoulder to lean on :-)
So I say reach out to her. She may be in a very lonely place, and this is a tough disease/condition to discuss, especially with people who have little to no experience with it or knowledge.
ask her.... mention that you have it too. she's probably thinking/feeling the same as you.
'-)