i never had problems dating and i have vit on my face,hands and other places. i dont say "hey i have vit" but when someone notices or if they dont notice because i can hide it pretty good lol!! i let them know. i dont wear makeup yet to hide any vit but i am starting to wear eye shadow and lipstick to kinda get the focus off my vit on my face lol. i dont make eye contact with alot of people i get nervous that they are staring at my vit. when i was single and going to clubs omg there was a black light and i had no idea my vit was showing all bright. i still got hit on but my friend told me later when we left that i was lit up like a christmas tree he didnt want to tell me in the club bcuz he nw i would have left fast but hey i still got numbers lol.
Erica Butler > roseanna criadoNovember 30, 2009 at 12:54pm
Roseanna,
I dont cover my vit yet either, but thats probably because my facial spots are only on my eyelids and around my mouth and because i am so very pale it only stands out when there is not any "fashion" makeup on lol. As you can tell from default picture i love dramtic looks and i use a good base foundation that helps even out my skin and draw attention to my blue eyes rather than the white blobs around it :]
For as successful as my dating life has been, I can relate to your ladies through the workplace. I am absolutely terrified to go to work without my makeup on. What is worse, is the day i went into help out the office with no makeup on someone asked me "what the hell is wrong with your face" and i think you need to fix your eyeshadow" (white spots on my eyes). Its never been easy telling people without getting the "sympathy" reaction, and i would really love to figure out a healthy approach to tellling people outside my close group of friends, and when the right time is to tell them ya no?
Shelley,
Ive been dating my boyfriend for the past 6 years and i have found that hes actually grown to appreciate my spots :] I was honest and made sure he was comfortable with knowing this was something ill have forever, not like a pimple or rash. I have it around my eyes knees wrists legs hips and elbows, and i have struggled with it since i was 8 (now 21). He encourages me not to cover it up and has never once made me feel uncomfortable.
The bigger deal you make out of coming out the more likely you are to unconsciously push someone away.
I have vit on my face and I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. I dont do make up so when he met me he knew I had it. I have never used make up.....I am of the mind that if they wont accept me for who I am without the makeup.....I dont want them.....and that is something I want to know off the bat!
I have vit on my face. When I began dating my husband I told him from the start.. Of course he could see my face, but I explained to him what could happen. He said it didnt bother him.. That was 4 years ago
Hi Cneshia Traylor...thanks for responding. That is VERY encouraging. You can't tell you have vit on your face. What do you use to cover up? Just curious. Thanks. Shelley
I'm still dating my wife after 32 years. When it started to appear 12 -13 years ago we would go out for dinner and people would stare.It never bothered her then or now. I'm a lucky man to have her.
I'm speaking from experience...having vit is not a reason to keep from living your life. I have several hobbies.Showing classic cars and playing my guitar. I've restored cars and trophied at national car shows and played/recorded music commercially.
I think for the most part that we have stronger attitudes,self aware of negative interactions and understand good values.
There are some good people out there,I think we are the best of them who could love and care about others.Too much self doubt will keep you from seeing past your own heart.( sorry fro the rant)
Hi Pat! Thanks for your reply. But you were already in a loving relationship, and I'm so glad that it never bothered your wife, just shows that she has true love for you. But dating is another thing. You have to risk the rejection, which I am willing to do, but it is so scary being so vulnerable to potentially being rejected because of your skin problem. Although that does show that the person doesn't truly love you, it still hurts. So it's scary to to take the risk. I know that you have to in order to LIVE life, and like I said, I'm "going there." But I'm very scared. Just needed to know if others have succeeded in beginning a new relationship without the vit. coming into play in a negative way. Know what I mean?
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I dont cover my vit yet either, but thats probably because my facial spots are only on my eyelids and around my mouth and because i am so very pale it only stands out when there is not any "fashion" makeup on lol. As you can tell from default picture i love dramtic looks and i use a good base foundation that helps even out my skin and draw attention to my blue eyes rather than the white blobs around it :]
Ive been dating my boyfriend for the past 6 years and i have found that hes actually grown to appreciate my spots :] I was honest and made sure he was comfortable with knowing this was something ill have forever, not like a pimple or rash. I have it around my eyes knees wrists legs hips and elbows, and i have struggled with it since i was 8 (now 21). He encourages me not to cover it up and has never once made me feel uncomfortable.
The bigger deal you make out of coming out the more likely you are to unconsciously push someone away.
I'm speaking from experience...having vit is not a reason to keep from living your life. I have several hobbies.Showing classic cars and playing my guitar. I've restored cars and trophied at national car shows and played/recorded music commercially.
I think for the most part that we have stronger attitudes,self aware of negative interactions and understand good values.
There are some good people out there,I think we are the best of them who could love and care about others.Too much self doubt will keep you from seeing past your own heart.( sorry fro the rant)
Cheers,
Shelley
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