I think I can understand your view point Hector, everyone is at different stages of acceptance with their vitiligo mentally. You've obviously gone through your own trials and are at a stage of life you're comfortable with and don't wish to relive it again through someone else. It would be like a recently quit smoker trying to date a smoker, the smoker maybe isn't ready to accept trying to quit while the other is beyond that and isn't looking back. It would create emotional hardships that would be rough on both sides of the relationship. Same would be with two people with vit.
It would take a very strong person to help someone else deal with the emotional stress vitiligo causes that you've just yourself been through and accepted. Is it worth it? In my eyes yes, but i'm not in that situation so I can't say.
All I hope is that we can all find someone to love one day, especially you Dawn! haha
Yes, in hindsight I should've chosen better my words and explained my train of thought... I naively thought since we all have it, that appearance wasn't even part of the equation
I would think that if u r with a woman with vitiligo u would feel at peace because u know what eachother is going through, and it's almost like u r one. Very rarely do u find someone who doesn't have vitiligo who will love someone with it. I can only imagine how many people r out there in this world that can't find love because of thier vitiligo. So good luck with being choosey!
Ok, this sheds some light on your posture... as I said before, this is a journey, an ongoing process... I too thought as you do now, that no one could possibly like me because of the disease and it's just not true.
I won't go into detail about what I've gone through and overcome, suffice to say I've done therapy, recognized it's not my loss when someone avoids me, had to make peace with some friends and their shunning, and you know.. it was a very hard thing to do, and it took me a long time.
I am sorry if you cannot understand where I'm coming from, call me shallow, choosey, etc. I'm OK with it if it helps you in your healing process. Now, don't get offended, but if anything my decision of not dating someone with vit has just grown stronger.
i'm sorry but i pity the fool that u choose!!!!!!!!!! FYI, i have a boyfriend that sees past my vitiligo and has no problem reassuring me everyday that it doesn't define me. It takes i guess a real human being with heart to be able to do that. If u love someone, it shouldn't matter what's on the outside! Taking from how you speak i guess you have never expierenced real love! and as far as MY healing process people like you and your comments are not even part of it.
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It would take a very strong person to help someone else deal with the emotional stress vitiligo causes that you've just yourself been through and accepted. Is it worth it? In my eyes yes, but i'm not in that situation so I can't say.
All I hope is that we can all find someone to love one day, especially you Dawn! haha
I won't go into detail about what I've gone through and overcome, suffice to say I've done therapy, recognized it's not my loss when someone avoids me, had to make peace with some friends and their shunning, and you know.. it was a very hard thing to do, and it took me a long time.
I am sorry if you cannot understand where I'm coming from, call me shallow, choosey, etc. I'm OK with it if it helps you in your healing process. Now, don't get offended, but if anything my decision of not dating someone with vit has just grown stronger.