Okay so I just needed to post this to get it off my mind; Today was a better day because I went through it with a close friend. First off I went with her to go to the salon to have the big "chop" done ( she has gone back natural today and cut off all her chemical treated hair). After that I did something I never do, I went into a store and tried on clothes! I had on regular clothes but my arms where exposed and I have spotty arms on both sides. I was stared at and whispered about, but I kept my head high, smiled when necessary and looked for clothes to try on. I know that I look weird to a lot of people because I have mis match skin and those who are "ignorant are usually scared of what they don't know", I saw the heads turning and the comments made, but I kept on walking and trying on clothes. It was hard for me only when on focused on the faces of people, but my friend (since 5th grade) kept me focused on the task at hand, for that I will always love her. I tired on a skirt and shirt outfit and ya know what, I'm going to buy more skirts and show my legs because I have them and they are fully functional. So anyway, fast forward to around 8pm the same day, my friend and I, met up with some of her old co workers to eat ata resturant called "Chimes." I wore the shirt I picked out from earlier, which left my arms exposed, and black slacks. The whole outfit was black and pink and I had curls in my head. And yes my jewlery was on point! Needless to say, walking from the car to the front door, all eyes were on me! But I felt calm in my spirit because I know that I am beautiful so if you want to watch me, I'm going to give you something to watch! (I'm taking lessons from Ciney! lol) I felt my hips swinging to the rythm in my head. MY eye contact to others was direct but welcoming. I was comfortable with my friend and her co workers, because they were comfortable with me. I can't change me, I can't control vitiligo, but I'm 24 years old and I can def control my life ( with the help of GOD as my pilot), I am so sick of worrying about what someone will say or think of me, because they are still going to do it! I want to do things I have never done and travel to places I never have. But I am realizing everyday, I am not going to get there because of fearing other people and what they expect of me. I honestly bothers me that people will gwak at us because of our outer appearance, but don't take this disorder seriously. Its frustrating. I just wanted to vent this, because you guys are my family and I know someone out here on this world wide web understands excatly what i'm talking about. Love you guys! Good night!
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Hi Courtney,
How are you? I have just read this and GOOD FOR YOU!!! I am new to this site having been diagnosed 2 years ago. I was devastated and until now felt totally alone with my vitiligo. This website is indeed a blessing to me. IT is great to chat with fellow suffers and hear their stories.Love and blessings x
I LOVE IT, I LOVE IT, I LOVE IT..............Im over here screaming and cheesing!
Thats that "Diva" attitude right there! Im so glad you had a great time, statyed focused, and did YOU! Sist never let anyone steal your joy. Your gonna have to call me and give me full details of your night... I love it! ;- )
You're said it: We can't control our vitiligo! We also can't control what others think of us.
We can only control how we think of ourselves!
I've spent far too much time and energy feeling ashamed of something I have NO control over. Now, it's time to take back that time and energy and use it for something positive.
I had a hard time wearing black or red previously because I felt those colors highlighted my then spots and now paleness and now, I have no problem wearing them at all and the whole thing seems trivial.
Everyone has an issue they have to overcome, ours just happens to be more visual and vitiligo just happens to be one facet of who we truly are!
I feel your spirit Courtney! High fives for you!!! I did what you did recently too. I went shopping and tried on clothes that would be appealing to me without the vitiligo. I did buy short sleeve shirts but I have not wore them in public - call me chicken I guess. But I have come a long way. I am usually long sleeved down all summer. Well this summer I am wearing 3/4 length shirts only and lots of skirts.
Congratulations on your boldness to step out in the skin u r n! It takes boldness with vitiligo. Remember people see u as u see yourself! So I say SEE YOURSELF BEAUTIFUL IN VITILIGO!! Cawanda
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How are you? I have just read this and GOOD FOR YOU!!! I am new to this site having been diagnosed 2 years ago. I was devastated and until now felt totally alone with my vitiligo. This website is indeed a blessing to me. IT is great to chat with fellow suffers and hear their stories.Love and blessings x
I LOVE IT, I LOVE IT, I LOVE IT..............Im over here screaming and cheesing!
Thats that "Diva" attitude right there! Im so glad you had a great time, statyed focused, and did YOU! Sist never let anyone steal your joy. Your gonna have to call me and give me full details of your night... I love it! ;- )
You're said it: We can't control our vitiligo! We also can't control what others think of us.
We can only control how we think of ourselves!
I've spent far too much time and energy feeling ashamed of something I have NO control over. Now, it's time to take back that time and energy and use it for something positive.
I had a hard time wearing black or red previously because I felt those colors highlighted my then spots and now paleness and now, I have no problem wearing them at all and the whole thing seems trivial.
Everyone has an issue they have to overcome, ours just happens to be more visual and vitiligo just happens to be one facet of who we truly are!
Congratulations on your boldness to step out in the skin u r n! It takes boldness with vitiligo. Remember people see u as u see yourself! So I say SEE YOURSELF BEAUTIFUL IN VITILIGO!! Cawanda