I havn't posted anything in a while, so i figured id swing in and hopefully leave some good vibes.
- accessorize. Get creative. i wear the norm: bracelets, rings etc... but recently i also started wrapping native style necklaces around my wrists with some pretty cool pendants. it makes me feel good about using/showing my hands because regardless of the white spots my hands look pretty dam cool! i got like a Layne Stayley 90's grunge look going!
- Look your best. it doesn't matter how bad you THINK you look, it's in your head. If you put just a bit of effort into looking presentable before leaving your house, you will also feel better. It's bad enough to feel depressed, but to look it as well?
- Get good at something. i have found a very deep connection with music. But there are so many possibilities. Poetry, literature, sports, drawing whatever.... just get good at something. Pick an art, stick to it and just practice practice practice til you get really good. This builds self confidence which leads me to my next subject:
- self acceptance. Something i have struggled with for many many years. I can't allow myself to feel sorry for myself. I'm 22 years old, i work as a cook, im fully independent, i'm responsible for raising the greatest dog ever, i can play and write music, i have many amazing friends who probably dont even know what vitiligo is.... not that they dont see it. they just dont care. I'm ok with my life. I like the way things are going. I'm probably not at the point where i can say i fully "accept" my vitiligo. but im well on my way and you should be too.
-fake it until you make it. Depressed? Too bad!!! just smile. don't let anyone know you're feeling down unless the time is right. All too often i notice people bringing up their own personal issues at the wrong time. This doesn't get you the response you're looking for. i'm not saying to hold in your feelings, but theres times when its wise to just act like you're happy.
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It is such a good feeling to get into what you are about as a person and to watch the care factor about how you look decline. yeah, there will always be times where the vit may be the excuse for feeling bad for a bit but then it is get up and go and
love the skin you are in!
I have just come out of a 'blue' patch (or should I say 'white' patch) about the way I look but after having really explored this I can now see that it is more about the person I think I am rather than what I think others think of me. Because lets face it, thats all looks are about.
Thanks again, Alex.
during the last 5 years bracelets and my hands became in love i have like 30 ones of them . they look so cool and take away the bad look of vitiligo specially if you were two or three leathers ones in every hand.
if i may add i think everyone should try to make his own style in cloths believe me people will notice that before anything , l love my style in cloths also sunglasses is a must .
also sport when playing it , watching it ..makes you forget everything around you from vitiligo to stress issues ....its my calm time with my bain ...
Look your best - this one main thing Accept yourself and treat urself to the best way u can, I will say giving them two things to look at.
DO that which you enjoy doing most, love your world and Love yourself first before looking out for love because if the love comes when you do not have love, it will go the way it came.
Yeah Fake it.......Just smile, from just smiling you start smiling really without knowing it.
As long as we are alive we (humans) will always have issue, Viiligo is just part of our own issue very disfiguring I agree, but what can we do than to accept it and live the day as it comes.
I have been able to manage my Vit to all level and am so grateful to God for that and I strongly believe We all Can! someday, its a gradual thing we must decide to make happen.
All d best people
Thanks again for the great advise.
Take care and stay positive.
I also believe in the healing power of listening to and playing music. I do both - and I know how much it has helped me - over the years - when VIT tries to bring me down.
All these are probably where I got to the point of loving my vit, 20 years of ignoring it turns into liking it :) Keeping positive is a great way to learn to accept yourself. Thanks for the good vibes.