I am a 16 year old guy and I only have vitiligo on my shoulders (which I just tell people is sunburn), a spot on my hip and patches on my groin region. It has been stable for about a year now. Anyway, with it essentially only being in my 'intimate area', if someone saw it (without knowing) they would think it was some crazy std/i. Although I am not the type of guy to have a one night stand with a girl, even if I wanted to I couldn't.
So if I do want to do something with a girl I have to tell her and therefor trust her which doesn't come easy to me. It just makes me stay away from girls altogether. It's really frustrating and I don't trust people easily so I don't have anyone that I can talk to. I know I sound like a drama queen but it's not just a pimple, it's there forever and it will never be any easier.
I know it may sound ungrateful to some of you guys but sometimes I think it would be easier if I had visible patches, at least it would make the explanation easier. Does anyone have any experience or advice with this issue? Thanks.
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I suffered from vitiligo for three years. It first grows out on my neck and then spreads to my face, which makes me look awful. I don’t like the way that strangers look at me. I tried many treatments such as laser surgery to remove it, but it really just can cure the symptoms on the surface, months later, I found it still grows out on my neck. This really bothers me, and makes me lack of confidence. However, things turn better when one of my mother’s relatives in China told me to try some Chinese herbs. He invited us to go to China to receive the treatment. First, i just want to have a trip, which i thought will makes me feel happier. On the other side, I don’t believe those Chinese Traditional stuff, sounds like witchcrafts to me,. However, magics really happened on me!
After the treatment, I do get better now. They use some secret prescriptions from the ancient time, and pure Chinese herbs that don’t have by-product effects. Anyways, I m so glad to share this story with people that have same problems like me. Hope you can have a try too.
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Hi Noah,
I'm hoping this finds you well. I also hope that in time you will be able to be more comfortable in the skin you are in. I would urge you to take ownership of your Vitiligo and by that I mean you have a choice in deciding how you will live with this condition. You can either allow having Vitiligo to define you-or you can define yourself.
As someone who is older and who has made the same journey as you-let me tell you that you are not destined to be alone. You will find people accept you, but you must also accept yourself first. Look for treatment options available to you and opportunities where you can meet or speak with others (like here). Your fears and apprehensions are not anywhere near as unique as your Vitiligo patches may make you-and let me assure you, girls are much more forgiving about so-called imperfections...
Best wishes,
Ish x
I can give you some advice for dating in general, but never experience having to date with Vit, I got it after I was married. Unfortunetly, we grow up in a world where your told to be nice with women, but it's actually the the other way around. Now don't take this wrong by going to the extreme. Nice guys finish last. You have to be confident to the point that it almost seems like your mean hearted. Confidence is everything, look them in the eye and show them the vit doesn't stop you from being you. They have to feel you can't be stopped from acheiving your goals.
Work you confidence or if you lack than google how to build confidence, there is help there.
Your confidence mixed with the abilitly to make them comfortable around you should do wonders. Most Women need to feel comfortable around you for them to even think about being intimate.