So,,, my close friend and I decieded to get something to eat at China One. While there a nice looking black guy entered and we made eye contact, and i smiled....he went to pick up some food that apparently he ordered...well, he left and my friend went out to her car and when she came back in she has a piece of paper with his name and number on it....says he'd like to get to know me, and....i'm like okay....that was a nice surprise and wow...i was not looking my best....i had been up all day and my friend and i had just left the library....well i called him the next day around 3pm and we started to talk....guess what i found out!!....dude has two children ( I don't mind dating a guy with kids) but he had a 4 yr old and one that was just born this month!!!! I was so freaking shocked!!..then he tells me...he is still in a relationship with this baby's mother.. ( she is the mother to both his kids)...and "she actually moved into HIS house, just b/c he wanted to be with his baby"...i am so sick of lame ass men approaching me!! He went on to say he is tired of being lied too.... and he is not happy! ugh!!...as if i am actually going to allow myself to get involoved with this loser! i just had to vent this
atrocious event!... I got a little dowm after this episode, because i'm wondering if i am going to have to settle....Nah! I don't think so.....guess i'll be single a little longer than i thought
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Wow Courtney that guy really had some nerve and he pretty much was flirting with you when he made eye contact, This man sounds like a dog who basically uses women for his own gratification. Your a good woman Coutney and you don't ever have to settle for less as a matter of fact you should settle for nothing less than the best!!!!!You didn't need to be mixed up with a clown like him anyway you were much better off without somebody like him.That guy had a lot of nerve she should of been focusing more on his babies mother and those kids instead of flirting with you and I bet the food was probably for his babies momma and those kids !!!
Sadly, if I had a nickel for every lame f'ing story I've gotten, I'd be a rich girl.
My favorite was the IT guy at my old job whose kids I had met! With a wedding band STILL ON HIS FINGER, he commenced to tricking me into the supply room, locking me in, and groping me (don't ask- it's a long, stupid story and I have a history of being gullible). But that was okay, because his divorce was just two weeks away from being finalized! Rigggghhhhhttttt. Quick public records check showed no pending divorce, and 6 years later he is still "happily" married.
And if they weren't taken or married, they were stalkers! I met a guy my first day, freshman year of college, on the elevator in the parking garage (that should have been my first red flag, lol). Long story short, I went on one ill-fated "date" with him (it was actually a friend's birthday party, but there was no friend, there was no birthday, and the party was only in this guy's pants)(see what I mean when I say I'm gullible?), and he commenced to phone bombing me, waiting for me outside of classes, etc., for 4 months!!! I never returned his phone calls and wouldn't even make eye contact with him. At what point does a guy just call it a day? Seriously. Most guys I know will let maybe two phone calls go unanswered before they just move on. This guy let about 1,000 phone calls go unanswered before my dad had to tell him to naff off!
But that's just my dating vent. One of the things my now-husband I first bonded over were some of our dating horror stories. The key to that is to always see the humor in it. These people are walking jokes. Feel free to point and laugh.
after he told u that, u should of just said " well, call me back when you're single and living alone" ... lame, lame, lame...
no wonder us guys like an up hill battle, because of guys like that making it look like we're all "playas" or something.
if he wanted to be with his baby, then he should go for joint custody or something. what a loser.
how was dinner btw? ;-)