My vitiligo developed after I had been married for approx. 22 years. My husband tells me that the skin on my hands that has lost pigment is softer than my skin not yet affected. He also tells me that he doesn't even notice it. I have had thoughts, though, that if I wasn't already married that no one would want me because of the vitiligo.
hello:) i have been with my boyfriend for a year and seven months now and i havn't had issues with relationships. luckily my boyfriend supports me each step i take!
True Love has no Boundaries…. Please Please Do not let insecurity interfere with your relationship, I have been there I know how you feel, and I know what insecurity can do…
Thanks for all your comments and some insight of your personal life.
I didn't have vitiligo when I met my husband. We've been on this journey together and he's been pretty supportive. He's tried to find me doctors and done research on the treatment and vitamins. I guess I'm just dealing with insecurities at this point.
Hi Lily,
Vitiligo has never affected my love life. When I married the 1st.time I had vitiligo on my hands, and that didn't bother my husband. My marriage ended in divorce, but for other reasons not because of my vitiligo. My 2nd husband loved me they way I was. After I had my daughter with him, my vitiligo started spreading to other parts of my body.... I cried because I thought he wasn't going to love me anymore with all of the white patches,but that didn't change things. He always loved me and made me feel pretty. He would always tell me that he didn't see my white spots. Unfortunatetly he died at the age of 38 of a heart attack and I thought no one else would ever love me with my vitiligo. When I met my now husband, my vitiligo had already spread to my face and that didn't bother him. I met him 8 years ago and we have been married 5. He has always told me that he loves me for the person that I am and not for how I look. I think that's what has helped me to accept myself the way I am. ..... I agree with vitiligo beauty if a person truly loves you they will love you reagrdless.
Married now for 19 years , had vitiligo for 20 years and it never was a problem between us. I have learned to embraced my vitiligo and I believe that 's what is helping me. I always was told if a man/woman wants to love you they will regardless.
Hi, Lily!
Well, when I was younger (now I’m 40) I thought that I never could be loved because of my vitiligo (vitiligo came when I was 6).
When I was 15 I knew my first boyfriend and I discovered love. Our relationship was great. Vitiligo wasn't exist and we’re still very good friends!! :)
But I suffered too the personal rejection once. I felt like a monster and that moment affected my personal life for a long time. He was just an idiot, an empty person with an empty life...:(
I’m married from 10 years and my husband accepted me with my vitiligo without problems for the first time. But to be sincere, sometimes it’s me the problem because I create my own problems and then my husband says to me: “Eva, forget your spots, be happy. You’re nice. Don’t let spots change your life anymore”..Then I recover my personality and my strengh. I work every day to feel like I’m more that a women with spots but I’m luky too because when I feel down my husband is there to encourage me and to make me feel happy, sexy and normal. Because I’m normal! :) We are!!! :) But I know too that I have to feel fine by myself not because others.
Virtues are not in the skin... :))
Tonia Martin > EVA GARCIAAugust 21, 2009 at 5:16am
You are truly blessed to have such a wonderful and supportive husband. He doesn't see you spots - he sees you. I know it's hard but stay up my friend.
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I didn't have vitiligo when I met my husband. We've been on this journey together and he's been pretty supportive. He's tried to find me doctors and done research on the treatment and vitamins. I guess I'm just dealing with insecurities at this point.
Vitiligo has never affected my love life. When I married the 1st.time I had vitiligo on my hands, and that didn't bother my husband. My marriage ended in divorce, but for other reasons not because of my vitiligo. My 2nd husband loved me they way I was. After I had my daughter with him, my vitiligo started spreading to other parts of my body.... I cried because I thought he wasn't going to love me anymore with all of the white patches,but that didn't change things. He always loved me and made me feel pretty. He would always tell me that he didn't see my white spots. Unfortunatetly he died at the age of 38 of a heart attack and I thought no one else would ever love me with my vitiligo. When I met my now husband, my vitiligo had already spread to my face and that didn't bother him. I met him 8 years ago and we have been married 5. He has always told me that he loves me for the person that I am and not for how I look. I think that's what has helped me to accept myself the way I am. ..... I agree with vitiligo beauty if a person truly loves you they will love you reagrdless.
Well, when I was younger (now I’m 40) I thought that I never could be loved because of my vitiligo (vitiligo came when I was 6).
When I was 15 I knew my first boyfriend and I discovered love. Our relationship was great. Vitiligo wasn't exist and we’re still very good friends!! :)
But I suffered too the personal rejection once. I felt like a monster and that moment affected my personal life for a long time. He was just an idiot, an empty person with an empty life...:(
I’m married from 10 years and my husband accepted me with my vitiligo without problems for the first time. But to be sincere, sometimes it’s me the problem because I create my own problems and then my husband says to me: “Eva, forget your spots, be happy. You’re nice. Don’t let spots change your life anymore”..Then I recover my personality and my strengh. I work every day to feel like I’m more that a women with spots but I’m luky too because when I feel down my husband is there to encourage me and to make me feel happy, sexy and normal. Because I’m normal! :) We are!!! :) But I know too that I have to feel fine by myself not because others.
Virtues are not in the skin... :))