I am in this awkward predicament.... I am 29yrs old and never had a girlfriend.. its killing me..mainly because of my Vitiligo I am afraid to approach any girl fear of rejection at first sight :( ,
Now I think its time for me to act.. I am handsome guy Vit is little on my face (accident scar on forehead did not pigment)
Do you guys think I should just overcome my fear and really start approaching women?
This life is not worth living without company!!
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I know you only want the ladies to respond but I think you should ask the advice of the men here too because we have more in common with you and our experiences are similar your Vitiligo is not nowhere near as bad as mines and as you can see from my pictures I still got married because before she was my wife she was my girlfriend and she accepted me for me, people love from the heart and not thru their eyes trust me my friend, theirs somebody for everybody out here in the world but before you find that special woman try to love yourself first because once you love yourself you will get the courage to love another trust me I was in the same situation as you that's why I responded to your question eventhough you only wanted women to respond, If a woman is really interested in you she will approach you, she already knows you have Vitiligo so just be prepared for her questions, Don't let your Vitiligo stop you from approaching women because your going to find that special woman one day because God is going to send her too you when he's ready just trust me Prahalad take care my friend
Thanks a lot Carl... ladies have certain expectations when they are approached by men just wanted to know how they look at things in such cases.
Hector > Prahalad KothwalJanuary 14, 2010 at 10:58am
Wrong place to ask for this advice, as the ladies in this forum also have vitiligo and thus are more open and sympathetic. In the real world things are very different, and it varies greatly on each culture, myself, living in an Americanized looks obsessed culture can tell you, you really need a thick skin to approach girls and be very confident on yourself.
Your vit is very small and you can conceal it if you feel uncomfortable, from my experience I can tell you that regardless of what you do/say/feel/act some women will get away from you, some will avoid having anything to do with you, I even lost a couple of close friends when my vit spread... it is what it is, just keep looking and first and foremost be ok with yourself, just like Ogo wrote yesterday.
I think this is definitely the correct place to ask or this advice as we have all had to deal with this real world. We have all had to deal with the possiblity, the sting, and the aftermath of rejection. The ladies on here may be more open and sympathetic but we are ladies none the less. I know that in a man, I look for confidence more than anything else! Go out there and approach a woman like you have everything to offer her that someone without vitiligo has(and you do have everything and more to offer)!!!!!!! She may turn you down but it will her loss. Sure some people will get away and some will avoid you just like the people on the street or in the stores do. Those are people you really wouldnt want in your life anyway. I think Ogo has some powerful thoughts and words and she is very positive and uplifting.
Give in to love, or live in fear...........Forget Regrets or life is yours to miss.
I dont live with Vitiligo........Vitiligo has to live with me!!!!!!!
You sad it all when you asked 'Do you guys think I should just overcome my fear and really start approaching women?', thats exactly what you should do but before then I have few questions for you......
i. Do you love yourself?
ii. Do you accept yourself for whom you are?
iii. Do you know what you want and what you have to offer?
I asked this questions because you actually cannot give what you dont have, you cant love another without first loving or accepting yourself.
Do not bring up the issue of Vit with her till she asks, presenting Vit first will make it look as if you are seeking pity. Put Vit behind as you set out on this venture, go on do what you love doing, you never can tell someone somewhere may having dying to be with you.
Good self esteem and confidence is very important here to get what you want and not just any girl.
I truly believe that if someone was able to accept me even with all of my vit and the issues that come with, everyone with vitiligo will find someone. True love is not skin deep; it sees beauty even in the darkness.
I truly believe that the right woman is out there. Once you accept that you are good enough for her and live 110% as yourself, she will find you. :)
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I know you only want the ladies to respond but I think you should ask the advice of the men here too because we have more in common with you and our experiences are similar your Vitiligo is not nowhere near as bad as mines and as you can see from my pictures I still got married because before she was my wife she was my girlfriend and she accepted me for me, people love from the heart and not thru their eyes trust me my friend, theirs somebody for everybody out here in the world but before you find that special woman try to love yourself first because once you love yourself you will get the courage to love another trust me I was in the same situation as you that's why I responded to your question eventhough you only wanted women to respond, If a woman is really interested in you she will approach you, she already knows you have Vitiligo so just be prepared for her questions, Don't let your Vitiligo stop you from approaching women because your going to find that special woman one day because God is going to send her too you when he's ready just trust me Prahalad take care my friend
Your vit is very small and you can conceal it if you feel uncomfortable, from my experience I can tell you that regardless of what you do/say/feel/act some women will get away from you, some will avoid having anything to do with you, I even lost a couple of close friends when my vit spread... it is what it is, just keep looking and first and foremost be ok with yourself, just like Ogo wrote yesterday.
Give in to love, or live in fear...........Forget Regrets or life is yours to miss.
I dont live with Vitiligo........Vitiligo has to live with me!!!!!!!
i. Do you love yourself?
ii. Do you accept yourself for whom you are?
iii. Do you know what you want and what you have to offer?
I asked this questions because you actually cannot give what you dont have, you cant love another without first loving or accepting yourself.
Do not bring up the issue of Vit with her till she asks, presenting Vit first will make it look as if you are seeking pity. Put Vit behind as you set out on this venture, go on do what you love doing, you never can tell someone somewhere may having dying to be with you.
Good self esteem and confidence is very important here to get what you want and not just any girl.
Wishes u d very best.
Ogo that was awesome advice , thanks a lot.
I truly believe that the right woman is out there. Once you accept that you are good enough for her and live 110% as yourself, she will find you. :)
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