Moved to new house, neighbors tell children "Don't touch her!"

*Sigh*

Sometimes I'm really disappointed with society. We just moved to a new house, and it's in a small town. I wasn't opposed to moving here, but I certainly do need some adjustment time before I grow to actually become fond of this place in any measure. My husband is from a small town, and he is just in love with this place instantly. He thinks this old 1920's renovated house is charming. He thinks the small town size is lovely. He is also conveniently blase about his surroundings and has extremely selective hearing.

He doesn't have to overhear the neighbors telling their children not to "touch her". I guess I don't have to listen to this either. And for the most part, I don't. I don't even like children anyway, so it's unlikely that I'd ever go out of my way to have contact with them, and I'm fairly reclusive, so I'm in the privacy of my home or in the fenced backyard.

I'm just starting to come into my own self, and get a handle on a more positive self image, and I won't hesitate to cross anybody off the list that threatens my development. But still... don't you all get tired of this sometimes? I quit being hypervigilent of people's actions around me because it makes me paranoid and snarky. And yet, even with "letting go" of other people's opinions, I find that I still have to deal with their BS which sometimes prevents me from going about my business as usual. I went to a local fruit stand to pick some produce up on the way home, and as I was driving away, the seller picked up the ENTIRE nearly-full bin of fruit I picked from and threw it away in the trash bin behind her! What is wrong with people?

This is a small and conservative town that is very much into the ideologies and traditional expectations I reject. I am very NOT conservative, and anyone who speaks with me for three minutes will realize this immediately. I'm the only black person I have seen in this town... I stick out without the extra added factor of obvious vitiligo. I know I should just buck up and deal with it and just "do me" despite other people. But me dressing up to the nines everyday doesn't address the fact that I have to go that extra mile just to *maybe* get treated humanely.

I'll feel better tomorrow. I just needed to rant. Thanks for listening.

wow, its hard to believe that people actually think that way and are rude like that. you're not a creepy old man who likes children that'd be understandable than but that would hurt my feelings as well. Once you start to get comfortable with yourself you kinda forget you have it around people and think that you can somehow blend in and your not on guard about poeple saying rude stuff like that so when they do it hurts ten times harder than if you were expecting it. Moving to a small town with just knowing your husband is hard. going anywhere you don't know is hard. but seriously when stuff like that happens i sometimes imagine like a whole army of us like go after people, its good to be with people who have the same thing.

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Samantha Smith June 30, 2011 at 2:21am

wow, its hard to believe that people actually think that way and are rude like that. you're not a creepy old man who likes children that'd be understandable than but that would hurt my feelings as well. Once you start to get comfortable with yourself you kinda forget you have it around people and think that you can somehow blend in and your not on guard about poeple saying rude stuff like that so when they do it hurts ten times harder than if you were expecting it. Moving to a small town with just knowing your husband is hard. going anywhere you don't know is hard. but seriously when stuff like that happens i sometimes imagine like a whole army of us like go after people, its good to be with people who have the same thing.
Marty BlackEagle-Carl June 29, 2011 at 1:06am

you should of went back and touched all the fruit!!!!!
- William M > Marty BlackEagle-Carl June 29, 2011 at 6:12am
  
  LOL:):):)
- AX Woman > Marty BlackEagle-Carl June 29, 2011 at 5:23am
  
  Ha! And then I would have had an army of pitchfork wielding farmers at my front door that night. I am so not trying to get my house burned down, LOL. I guess if people don't know how to be civil to me, then I would prefer that they just ignore me, and leave me alone to go about my business.

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