Posted by Heather Dixon on February 21, 2011 at 12:10pm
recently i was talking to this guy over texts, he was looking on my facebook page and pictures. he sent me a textmessahe and asked what the white spots were. i told him. he acted like he didnt like the fact i had vit. i told him not to judge me and theres no point in me talking to him. he claimed he wasnt judging me but i know he was just by the way he was talking to me. he called me some mean words and i havent talked to him since. has anyone had any expirinces like this? if so please share i would love to hear and share with everyone :)
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as a kid, i had a neighbor who had vit. she was just a yr older to me. i never asked her about her vit. i had asked my mother about it and my mom had explained me what it was. she was a happy kid and we all used to play with her,we never judged her or teased her. now, i am a mom and my kid has vit and am always nervous abt how other kids will treat her.
this may not apply to your situation, but personally i think you shouldn't worry too much about that unless she comes to you with a problem. if you keep asking her if she's being teased or if she's treated differently, she may feel like there really is a reason that she should be concerned about those things as well, even though there isnt. ultimately her vitiligo will make her a stronger person. :]
the way i see it, vitiligo helps us weed out the guys worth our time from the ones who aren't. iv had a few reactions similar to this but when you find the right people who dont judge they look past the skin.
I never had that kind of reaction when I was younger. When I was in the 9th grade, I had a guy notice the spots on my thumb and he asked about them, so I told him what it was. He asked if it was contageous, and I said it wasn't. He asked if it hurt, and I said nope. Then he asked if he could touch my thumb. Weirdo! But in the end, it seemed to help because a few other kids asked, and he relayed to them that my skin was really just like everyone else's, just a little spotty in areas.
I'd say ignore the little turd. You'll find as you get older that more people are curious about it than judgmental. And with awareness about vitiligo being more common, you'll have people ask you specifically if it's vitiligo. I always welcome the curiosity questions, and ignore people who point and whisper.
Heather Dixon > Ali MarieFebruary 22, 2011 at 11:26am
after the way he acted about it i was just o whatevr i dont need u, i can move on without you, your not worth my time so bye. it does help weed thro them all :)
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Yikes!
I never had that kind of reaction when I was younger. When I was in the 9th grade, I had a guy notice the spots on my thumb and he asked about them, so I told him what it was. He asked if it was contageous, and I said it wasn't. He asked if it hurt, and I said nope. Then he asked if he could touch my thumb. Weirdo! But in the end, it seemed to help because a few other kids asked, and he relayed to them that my skin was really just like everyone else's, just a little spotty in areas.
I'd say ignore the little turd. You'll find as you get older that more people are curious about it than judgmental. And with awareness about vitiligo being more common, you'll have people ask you specifically if it's vitiligo. I always welcome the curiosity questions, and ignore people who point and whisper.