• Hi Atif, yes, seek legal help. Go to a Citizens Advice Bureau branch if you don't know where to start. And try not to stress out. That will only make matters worse. good luck.
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  • Atif, I can't imagine how u must be feeling at the mo...I completely agree with sand, that u should see a soliciter for ur visa and u really need to think about seeing a therapist as well to help u deal with vit ... I too am planning to see a therapist soon and i really don't care about what people think of my vit...and I'm doing it for myself cos it's me who seems to have problem with vit and really needs to accept it...

    U really should forget about these so called 'friends' and 'neighbours'..if I were u, i wouldn't even call them that... Ignorance is a disease, arrragh!
    • thank u friends. still i m hopeless......but thanks 4 ur advice
  • I'm sorry that you're going through this! I know that it's rather strange to explain to someone you haven't seen in a long time the change in your appearance. The sad truth is that ignorance doesn't lie solely in countries where illiteracy is prevalent. People at one point in my life also avoided me because they thought I had AIDS.

    I would strongly suggest going to see an immigration solicitor to find out what your options are at this point.

    I would also suggest going to see a therapist to express your thoughts. Doing so has helped me a lot. We can't change the fact that we have Vitiligo. Even if all our pigment one day returns or if it all leaves us, it'll still be a facet in our life. We have to then decide how big of a facet it is. Are you going to let it define you or are you going to define it? Not everyone in our life will be accepting of our appearance or even understanding of it. Therapy helps give you the tools to accept this and move forward in life.

    Here in the States my sister's friend went through his own issues with immigration. He was from Sri Lanka but had gone to university here on a student visa. After graduating, he stayed here on a work visa for several years but for some reason it wasn't renewed. He had envisioned his future here in the States and his older brother already had citizenship here so he couldn't imagine leaving. He briefly considered marriage to stay in the country but decided against it and returned to Sri Lanka. While there he met up with the daughter of a family friend and they began a pen pal relationship. She had left Sri Lanka years before to work in Australia and was by that point a citizen there. He then went to Australia on a work visa, they got married and he's now an Australian citizen.

    Life has a way of working itself out. Hang in there!
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